3 Easy Divorce Stress Management Tips To Feel Calm & Confident

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Divorce stress can leave anyone feeling drained. Try these tips to get you through the rough times.

On the scale of most stressful life events, divorce is topped only by the death of a spouse. The third most stressful life event is actually marital separation—that really tells you how stressful it is to go through this kind of trauma. If you are going through a divorce and are feeling the weight of stress, anxiety, and frustration on your shoulders, it’s time to take a step back. Here are some divorce stress management tips that will actually work and will actually save your sanity.

  1. Reconnect with activities you love. Are there old hobbies or habits that you used to love to do, but have recently let fall by the wayside? Many women lose track of the things that they loved to do when they were single when they get married, sacrificing those habits or hobbies in favor of something else. During a divorce is the perfect time to pick up those activities again, especially if you find yourself a little listless. Did you used to love to read, but haven’t had time? Curl up with a book for an entire day. Did gardening soothe your soul? Get a couple of plants!
  1. Create a support network. The friends and family that you surround yourself can greatly influence your stress levels and how capable you are of dealing with whatever difficulties come your way. Right now is the perfect time to start creating and relying on that support network. Choose individuals that understand what you are going through and are genuinely concerned for you and your well-being. Cut yourself off from negative influences or those that encourage you to wallow in your stress and sadness. Instead, spend your time with those that lift you up and make you feel better.
  1. Make time for yourself. This is something that women are notoriously bad at doing but its one of the most important divorce stress management tips to implement. We are nurturers, we want to care for others, sometimes so strongly that we completely forget to care for ourselves. When you are in the middle of a divorce and the stress is piling on, you need to make time for yourself. Self-care during this time is extremely important. Take care of yourself: treat yourself to a dessert, take a long bath, spend the entire day watching your favorite television series; do something that is just for you.

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How To Reduce Stress During Divorce

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Divorce stress is one of the worst forms of stress a woman can experience, but there are ways to overcome it and persevere. 

Only the death of a spouse is more stressful than going through a divorce. That doesn’t mean that you should avoid getting a divorce if a divorce is the best solution for your relationship, it simply means that you need to learn how to reduce stress during divorce.  There is a very particular form of stress that divorce generates that can leave you feeling completely destroyed and devastated.

You know what it feels like: there are a million things to do and not nearly enough time to do them, paired with the knowledge that a relationship you have put a lot of time and energy into is coming to an end.  Add to that, the massive, heavy blanket of self-doubt, helplessness and the inability to think or see things straight.  I know.  I’ve been there.

If you are feeling the stress of a divorce, here are three practical ways to beat that stress:

  1. If you need to cry, cry. In today’s world, women are told that they shouldn’t cry, that they should be strong and “suck it up.” Crying relieves stress—it’s a very appropriate response to the stress of getting a divorce and is not something to be looked down upon. If you feel like you want to cry, go ahead and cry. You’ll feel better after the tears have been shed. Fighting back tears only piles more stress on top of your existing stress.
  1. Take up a new hobby you find rewarding.  Another tip I can share on the topic of how to reduce stress during divorce is to find a new activity that you really love to do and that satisfies you. This could be anything, from reading to gardening to exercising to writing. This should be something that makes you feel happy and content while you are doing it. It doesn’t have to show results or create anything that you can use in your life—it should just make you happy. Many married women find that they do very little for themselves. Now is the time to reclaim your life, and picking a new hobby is a great way to do that.
  1. Don’t skip meals. When you are stressed out, tired, and sad, you may forget to fulfill some of your most basic needs. Don’t skip meals. Your body will be hungry, even if you don’t actually feel hungry. Dealing with divorce and the stress it brings can sometimes suppress the appetite (that’s an evolutionary response), but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t nourish your body. Make sure that you eat at least three square meals a day. If you often forget to eat, or don’t have much of an appetite, try snacking on fruits during the day, grabbing some soup, or pick up a new juicing routine. You need good nutrition to beat divorce stress, so make healthy eating a priority.

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How To Confidently Survive Divorce With Your Finances Intact

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Going through a divorce is an overwhelming time, but it does not have to be this way!  It can be a lot easier to come out financially stable after a divorce if you follow these 7 tips  for protecting finances before divorce.

I’ve lived through a divorce and lived to tell the story.  And I can tell you that divorce stress can be devastating, both emotionally and financially. It’s a delicate time that can easily result in making poor decisions.   For me, it felt like my whole world was being turned upside down, and in a way, I guess it was. 

Nothing seemed to make sense at a time when you have to make some really important decisions. The decisions you make before, during, and after divorce  can have an impact on your post-divorce finances for a long period of time. To survive divorce financially, you have to making wise decisions.  Making wise decisions can shorten the time it takes to recover financially.

Thankfully, there are quite a few things you can do to survive divorce financially which don’t require a lot of thought, time, energy or money. Some choices are easy to make and easy to implement. 

Speed Up Your POST-Divorce Financial stability with these strategies :

  1. Close joint account and open your own bank account a.s.a.p. If you’ve taken the final decision to get divorced,  you don’t want to be stuck with any financial liabilities your soon-to-be ex creates.  This doesn’t just include bank accounts. Any credit cards are also potential nightmares. Contact your bank and credit card companies and explain the situation.  Act NOW, to get your finances in order so that you experience minimal financial woes after the divorce.

         Open new accounts in just your name. This might be easier to do before closing the joint accounts.

          Ensure that you’ll have access to money throughout the divorce process.

  1. Think about your housing situation.  if you have children, get ready for a complicated situation. Your kids need a place to live, so selling the house, or moving out may not be an option.  When children are part of the picture, it’s often best to consult with an attorney to examine your options. If you do not have kids, it’s often easier to sell the home and move on.  You may also decide to buy out your soon-to-be-ex, and assume full responsibility for the house post divorce.  That’s what I did, and when my divorce was final I rented out the house and moved into a more affordable apartment.  The rental income covers the mortgage payments, and at least I now have an asset that will continue to appreciate in value.
  2. Take stock of all your assets. Do you know the full extent of your financial holdings during your marriage? In many cases, one spouse handles the financial matters, and the other is happy to stay out of it. Now is the time to dig in and develop an accurate picture of what you have. You might be surprised by what you discover.

         Now you have to collectively decide how to handle the assets. Do you split them?

         Sell them and split the   proceeds? Or hire a lawyer and battle it out?   

  1. Take a look at all your insurance needs. You might need to get on your own medical insurance plan. What items do you still own that need to be insured? Your insurance costs might be much less now. There’s no reason to carry more insurance than you need.  Streamlining your financial obligations and implying there possible should be the order of the day.  Keeping things simple will allow you to heal financially and emotionally and end up standing even stronger on your own two feet.
  2. Design a new budget.  After divorce, your  income and expenses will change, so it only makes sense that your budget should  change too. If you’ve gone from a two-income household to a single income, there’s likely less margin for error. Develop a budget that makes sense for your new post-divorce circumstances and be determined to stick to it.  In my case, I got rid of some monthly payments, buy selling a truck I would no longer need, and I made room in my budget  to invest in essential personal development courses,  and aromatherapy, both of which I needed to get through this emotional devastating time.
  3. Swap beneficiaries on your life insurance and retirement accounts.  It’s quite possible that your beneficiary was your spouse. With a divorce around the corner, you’ll probably want to list new beneficiaries. For most accounts, this is easily accomplished by filling out a simple form. This step is often overlooked, but it’s REALLY important.  You need to make sure that in the event of your death, your assets go to those whom you want to have them.
  4. Secure a copy of your credit report.  You’re about to embark on a new life and a new reality, so it’s important to know where you stand financially. It’s just as important to be aware of all of your accounts. Your spouse may have opened a joint account or credit card without your knowledge. The better your credit, the easier it is to move through the world.  Conversely, the worse your credit, the greater the financial obstacles and challenges that lie ahead.

I can tell you from personal experience that divorce is a difficult time for all. But a divorce can be ten times more  difficult if financial matters are not handled intelligently. Focusing your attention on housing, debt, income, and good money management strategies, will make the transition easier. Doing this NOW is important to survive divorce financially.  It could mean all the difference between financial peace of mind after the divorce or extreme financial stress post divorce.

These tips  are intended to just highlight the basics. In many instances, an attorney and/or an accountant will be required. But understanding the basic issues will make it easier to make wise decisions. Apply these strategies to your circumstances and get the professional guidance you require.  These tips are in no way meant to replace professional advice so make sure to consult with a lawyer and any other relevant professional.  Your future financial health depends on it!  Act NOW, to ensure financial peace of mind long after the divorce is final.

Please Share Your Thoughts 

In the comments below, share with us:

1. Have you implemented any of these pre-divorce strategies?
2. If not, do you feel ready to take these steps for your post-divorce financial stability?