Use These 4 Guidelines To Get Back Up When A Life Crisis Knocks You Down

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A life in crisis is never an easy situation. Keep reading to find out ways to stay healthy while coping with a life crisis.

Whenever you experience a life crisis, extreme emotional stress is a natural consequence.  By its very nature, a life crisis disrupts and often even destroys our lives leaving us shattered and often too distraught to figure out how to put the pieces  of our lives back together and bounce back after a life crisis.  Usually, a crisis can become so all-consuming, so terrible, that the chronic stress it creates seems to be far too much to handle.  I Know, because I’ve been there.

A chronic or life threatening health issue, relationship breakdown, divorce, financial loss, natural disaster (hurricane, earthquake, tornado, flood) man-made disasters (terrorism, deliberate acts of violence), and death of a loved one are all common occurrences that can send anyone into crisis mode. However, if a crisis is not dealt with effectively, if we do not cope with it properly, we cannot make it successfully to the other side. Fortunately, we have some ways to help you deal optimally with crises.

  1.  Take Steps  to Prioritize your feelings and your tasks. When in crisis mode, you only have so much time and so much energy to devote to everything that needs to get done. If there are other situations, outside of your crisis, that seem to be demanding your attention (and emotions), do not be afraid to cut them off for a while. It is alright ( and even essential) to take some time and make yourself and your trials a priority.

Evaluate each commitment and ask yourself: Given my current life crisis is this something that’s going to enhance or drain my energy?  See how many unnecessary things you can eliminate, starting with just one thing — the things that gives you the least return for your invested time and effort.

  1. Look for support. Often, the people around you will be more than willing to lend a helping hand when you need it. Be honest with them and tell them what you really need. If none of your friends or family can provide the help you need, do not feel badly about looking somewhere else for support. There are professional services and organizations that you can tap into for mental, emotional and spiritual support. For instance, if you need divorce support, click here!
  1. Find ways to beat stress. This time is going to be stressful, and getting what needs to be done completed will be impossible if you are being consumed by stress and overwhelm. Know your stress triggers and find stress-relief techniques, tools and resources that help to reduce your stress levels.

Eating, sleeping, and self care are the first things to go in a life crisis.   Focus on having nourishing food available so that you can eat healthy meals and snacks that can boost your body’s ability to cope with the crisis.

You can easily become depleted while going through an emotional crisis or supporting a loved one through a crisis.  Pay keen attention to your own needs so you can be replenished.  Now more than ever, make a few minutes each day to exercise because exercise can help you cope with a difficult life challenge.

When you learn how to manage your stress effectively, you’ll feel better equipped and empowered to handle your crisis.

  1. Handle your feelings. Many times, people prefer to bury their difficult feelings during a crisis, rather than deal with them. If you bury them, you may believe you have a calmer mind and less stress, but you are just drawing out the process. You don’t have to wallow, but you should find a way to process your feelings, either by writing them down, talking to a trusted friend, or even seeking professional help.

At the beginning stages of a crisis, everyone needs to tell their story in their own time and in their own way.  Sharing the pain of your story is one of the cornerstones of releasing, reassessing and reorganizing your life in the midst of emotional trauma.  Talk about your stressful situations with someone you trust. Sometimes just talking about your problems and concerns can help you put them into perspective and give you insights into ways to deal with them.

Don’t forget to be patient with yourself. It may be tempting to devolve into a pattern of eating junk food and feeling sorry for yourself, and you may feel like that is all you want to do for a few days. If that is all you can bring yourself to do for a few days, be patient with yourself. Do things that make you happy and that put the crisis aside for a few moments. Work on specific nurturing to your body and mind to help alleviate the pressure the emotional crisis is putting you through. During this stressful time, a walk a day could keep the doctor away!

Don’t forget to eat healthy foods, get sufficient rest,  exercise and give yourself time to process what you are feeling and what is happening.

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1. Have you dealt with a life crisis?

2. What worked for you as a coping mechanism?

5 Ways To Think Positively During a Major Life Crisis

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Sometimes it’s hard to look on the bright side even when things are going fairly well. When you’re going through a major life crisis, having the “glass is half full” mentality can be a feat in itself!

Don’t Get Overwhelmed

When you’re in the middle of a stressful situation, it’s important to disallow over-anxious and over-analyzed thoughts. You really don’t want to overwhelm yourself with an over-stimulated mind because the added stress will only strain your mind further and you’ll find it nearly impossible to think positively.

Ways To Look On The Bright Side

How you go about transforming difficult situations into positive outcomes will differ each time. Your goal should be to discover a set of strategies that works well for you. It might take some experimenting, but that’s okay!

Consider the following ways to achieve a positive mindset:

  1. Avoid feeling sorry for yourself. Feeling sorry for yourself only wastes precious brainpower and it’s not going to help you out in the long run. Instead, strive to gain the wisdom to accept your situation and focus on solutions, instead of sorrow or worry. Everyone has to travel through tough times at some point; it’s just a part of life!
  1. Find the life lesson. It may be hard to find the silver lining, but it’s almost always hiding somewhere. All of your experiences – both good and bad – contribute to your life’s knowledge. Be thankful for what you know!

Reflect on the fact that you’ve gained wisdom and knowledge that may help you make better decisions and cope well in the future.

  1. Start small. Take some time to reflect on the difficult situation. If you’re having trouble finding a positive manner of thinking, just start by smiling at yourself in the mirror. You might not feel happy right away, but it sure will be hard not to feel happy when you see a beautiful smiling face staring back at you!

You can also consider the use of positive affirmations to help you through tough times. The more frequently you repeat your affirmations, the sooner you’ll ingrain the positive beliefs into your subconscious.

  1. Stop worrying. When you’re going through a tough situation, sometimes your worries can overtake you. The future might seem scary and bleak and you’re not sure what you should do. As you know, worrying isn’t going to help the situation in the least. Instead, the moment worry creeps in, redirect your mind onto something positive or reassuring.

Stay calm and start brainstorming some practical solutions.

  1. Be brave about change. Change is inevitable and most often you don’t even notice that it’s happening. During tough times, however, you’re likely more sensitive to the changes that are taking place.

Think about change as an exciting adventure. You’ll never know what you can discover and learn until you’re open to change.

Help From Others

When you’re going through a tough time, your instincts might be to pull inward. Perhaps you don’t want people to see you in a vulnerable state or you want to solve your problems all on your own. However, you must resist this urge to shut people out! Remember, you’re never alone. Your family and loved ones are always there to help you get through any challenging situation, but only if you allow them to!

Of course, your loved ones may not be able to solve your problem outright, but they can provide you with a fantastic support system and help you brainstorm different avenues for problem solving.

As hard as it may seem now, it is possible for you to think positively when you’re enduring tough times. Use these simple positive thinking strategies to help you change your mindset quicker than you ever thought possible!

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1. Have you ever turned a stressful situation into a life lesson? If so, what was it?
2. Who has helped you through a crisis in the past and how did they help you?

5 Simple Things You Can Do to Help a Friend Through A Crisis

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You will sometimes find your friends dealing with a major life crisis. There are things you can do to help a friend through a crisis.

Many times, we feel helpless when we see a friend in need. Especially if we have never experienced their particular crisis before, it can be difficult to know what to do to help. However, you already have an advantage over most people, because you know your friend well, what she needs and what she likes. Using this knowledge, you can help lift her burden of stress and make this crisis more manageable.

Here are 5 simple things you can do to help a friend through a crisis:

  1. Make a nutritious meal or bring her favorite snack. There is nothing better than seeing a friend show up at your door with food in hand. Bringing food has always been a gesture of goodwill, and not just because it allows your friend to cross something off of her lengthy to-do list. Even if you just stand in the doorway and hand the food across the threshold, your friend will greatly appreciate not having to make her own meal. In addition, bringing a nutritious meal shows that you took the time to think about what she needs, what she would want, and that demonstrates that you are not only thinking about her in her time of need, but also looking for ways to help.
  1. Be a helping hand. Sometimes, all someone needs is for you to show up at their door, ready to work. Crises are overwhelming, and getting everything done that needs to be completed in a single day can seem daunting, unless there is someone there to lighten the load. Being willing to help with anything she might need is a great way to lessen her stress and be supportive.
  1. Take her away from the situation. In a crisis, most people feel consumed and overwhelmed, and they have very little time to think about or do anything else other than trying to cope with the crisis. Sometimes, they need someone to come and take them away for a few hours. Whether you go see a movie, take a walk, or go out to dinner, a few moments of reprieve can make all the difference. Just be sure that it does not add to the stress by taking away time from essential things that need to be done.
  1. Be a sympathetic ear. Even if you do not know what to say or how to help, just listening can be the best way to help your friend in a time of need. Often, people are not actually looking for advice when they want to talk—unless they specifically ask for it—they just need to put their feelings into words in order to process them.
  1. Look for and recommend resources. No matter the nature of the crisis, there are likely resources ( both online and offline) your friend can use to lighten the load. Look for these websites, help lines, forums, audio programs, personal development courses and coaching, and professionals that can help your friend get through this difficult time.

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1. Have you helped a friend through a crisis?

2. What did you do to help them?

Essential Characteristics for Bouncing Back after Major Life Changes

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When we experience major life changes, it often feels like we will never recover. However, there are ways to come back strong.

Either you are this person or you know this person: the one who can easily bounce back after a setback. She does not get bogged down in times of trials, instead, she powers through them, resilient and strong, even coming out of the crisis stronger than before. Luckily, the characteristics that make a person resilient can be developed. If you want to become a more resilient person, cultivate the following characteristics in order to bounce back after major life challenges.

  1. Self-awareness. People who seem to skate through challenges are usually highly self-aware. Not only do they understand the nature of their situation, they understand how they are going to react to it, and they know how to deal with those feelings effectively. Instead of simply wandering through the trial, they are aware of everything that is happening, both internally and externally, and they use that awareness to solve problems as they arise.
  1. Knowledge of the nature of life. Understanding that challenges and crises are inevitable and will come despite your best efforts is one of the cornerstones of resiliency. This may make some feel powerless, but in reality, it should help you understand that flexibility and adaptability are important traits to have.
  1. Knowledge that you have control of your own life. When something negative happens in a person’s life, they sometimes look for a person to blame outside of themselves. In many instances, however, there is no one to blame, and even if there is someone to blame, wasting time and energy assigning blame to that person solves nothing. However, understanding that you have the ability to change your own life, and that you have control over what you do and even what you feel can help you not only accept your own shortcomings, but also steer your life in a positive direction.
  1. Problem solving. This characteristic may be the most difficult to develop, because in times of trials, we often want to wallow in our sadness and feelings. However, once you develop an attitude of problem-solving, you will be much better equipped to handle crises. When your first instinct is to look for ways to fix even little things, you become empowered throughout your challenge and do not get bogged down in failures.
  1. A strong social group. Even if your social group is only one person, having a strong connection with other people can help buoy you in times of difficulty. They will want to provide help and support, or even just lend a listening ear. Having people outside of the situation that you trust can also lend you perspective about the situation.
  1. Asking for help. Many people are actually afraid to ask for help, even if they know that they need it. When you know that asking for help is a sign of strength and self-awareness, not weakness, trials will be much easier to overcome.

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1. What life challenges are you dealing with right now?

2. Have you discovered ways to cope that may help others?