How to Turn Off Negative Thoughts and Turn on Your Own Positivity During a Life Crisis


It is a very common misconception that you have no control over what thoughts come into your mind and how they affect you.

In reality, you can learn how to turn off negative thoughts, to shut them down as soon as they enter your mind and even to prevent them from showing up at all.

Becoming a more positive person can be a serious asset, especially during a life crisis.

Losing a loved one, a major life upheaval like a career change or job loss, illness, and divorce do not have to bring out the worst in you. When you learn how to harness positivity, you can use these situations for betterment—or at the very least, power through without getting bogged down in what is an inherently negative situation.

Inject Positivity into Your Life

Start by seeking out people who are naturally positive. When you surround yourself with negative people, they can feed on and encourage you to have a negative outlook. While it can be cathartic to sit around and discuss all of the things that are going wrong in your life, eventually, it stops being useful and becomes a boon. When you only have friends or family members that want to talk about the negatives, you will only ever be able to focus on the negatives.

That’s not to say that every situation has a silver lining. Some just don’t, but that doesn’t mean that they cannot be dealt with in a positive way. Talk about the negative things—yes—but do not make your life just about the negatives.

Surround yourself with positive thinkers, problem solvers, and listeners who will both commiserate with you about how bad the situation is, but also take you by the shoulders and help you lift yourself out of the bad and into the good. Again, that doesn’t mean pointing out that someone else’s life is worse, it means taking an honest look at your situation and helping you deal with it.

Other ways to bring more positivity into your life from exterior sources is to find a funny television show that you love watching. Listen to uplifting music. Take a yoga class. Find a hobby that you truly love and devote at least a little time each week to it. Read a positive book.

Learn to Identify Negative Thoughts

You likely already know what a negative thought looks and feels like. It can be about yourself, about someone in your life, or about the situation at hand. It may be the first thing that pops into your head.

For example, if you are standing in line at the grocery store and the woman ahead of you is taking an age to write a check for the three things she purchased, the first thing that pops into your head may be, “Really? Did she have to pick the most time consuming method of payment?”

This is an inherently negative thought, and while it may not have anything to do with the life crisis that is really pulling you down, it is definitely a symptom of that bigger problem. When you are feeling negative, the negative thoughts are more likely to come and dominate your mind. So, how can you turn them off?

Make a Conscious Effort to Think Positively

Give that person the benefit of the doubt. Think about others as you would want them to think about you and your life. Especially at first, shutting down a negative thought and being more positive does take effort. As a thought pops up, you have to evaluate whether it is positive or negative, and if it is negative, correct yourself with a positive one.

Realizing that you do not know very much about another person’s life and why they do the things they do can help you think more positively about the people around you. Just as you would never consciously hurt someone else or try to inconvenience them, very few people are actively trying to slow you down or make your life harder.

When necessary, rely on those problem-solving friends and family members. They are the ones that listen to your problems and then say, “What can we do to make it better?” And most of all, keep in mind that no one is perfect and expecting them to be, especially expecting yourself to be, is unreasonable.

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About Darlene

Darlene is passionate and enthusiastic about helping women simplify their lives, develop stress resilience, regain balance, and find happiness, despite the personal storms life throws at them. She has published a popular series of stress management books which focus on simple, practical and healthy stress relief strategies, as well as provide FREE resources and services that help women become more stress-resilient.

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