Learn How to Identify Personal Stressors and Eliminate Them

stressedwoman2Stress is something that you feel internally and something which may not have a direct cause or trigger, every time that you start to feel it. Learning how to identify personal stressors is the first step for most women. For many women, stress builds up over a day or week from many small causes and by the time you realize it is happening, it feels like it is too late to do anything about the stress.

On the other hand, if you learn how to identify personal stressors and the elements of your life that cause you stress you can eliminate them from your life. So, how can you identify what is causing you stress and how can you cut those things out of your life, or at the very least, learn to deal with them?

Family Life

Having a family is stressful—anyone who has their own family or is a member of a family knows that. The people closest to us are often the ones willing to hurt us the most, even if they do not intend to. So, how do you know if your family is causing you stress?

Do you feel better when you are away from your family than when you are with them? Does the idea of having a family gathering like a movie night or dinner fill you with dread? Do many of your family activities end in fights or tension? These are some of the signs that your family might be the underlying cause of your stress.

You don’t want to cut your loved ones out of your life, but you do need to address with them the specific actions or situations that are causing you to be unhappy. Find a hobby like gardening or camping that gives you some time alone, so that not every moment of every day is spent catering to someone else’s needs. Invest in some aromatherapy. Take some time for yourself.


This is one aspect of many people’s lives that they do not realize is causing them a great deal of stress. If you cannot find things or often forget to do important things, this can build up some serious stress—more than you may be realizing. If you have to look for your car keys or glasses every morning, you start your day off in a stressful way and likely push back the schedule of your entire day, as you spent too much time looking for that “misplaced” ( read: lost)  item. Read more about how a disjointed schedule can make you feel stressed here.

The solution is to get organized. Buy yourself a planner or get a smartphone app that helps you stay on top of your to-do lists and daily tasks and appointments.


Feeling as though you don’t have enough money or that you aren’t spending wisely can put a serious strain on your stress response. Money is the one of the number one stressors in any relationship, either between spouses or between parents and children. People say, “It’s just money,” but without at least some money, it’s impossible to live comfortably and happily.

Cutting back on financial stress can be as simple as cutting a few things out of your daily routine—like stopping by the coffee shop every day or eating out every night of the week. Learn more about how to handle financial stressors here.

Food and Exercise

Did you know that not eating well and not exercising can compound the effect of other stressors and actually create stress of their own? When all you have time to eat is junk food and you never have time to get out and do a little exercise, your body starts to get angry and wound up. Sometimes you don’t have time for anything other than a fast food hamburger and sometimes stress drives you to overeat. Learn more about how nutrition can affect your stress levels here.

Walking has been proven to have stress relieving benefits. Not only does it burn calories and improve your respiratory and cardiac health, it reduces the production of cortisol (a stress hormone that is also related to weight gain). It’s just plain good for you, especially if you can find somewhere out in nature to take your stroll. Learn more about the positive benefits of walking here.

The Bottom Line

Whether you are facing regular life stress or a major life upheaval, you shouldn’t have to go through it alone. Our stress management club is a great way to gain access to stress reduction tips and resources, so that you can live a more balanced, upbeat, and happy life.

About Darlene

Darlene is passionate and enthusiastic about helping women simplify their lives, develop stress resilience, regain balance, and find happiness, despite the personal storms life throws at them. She has published a popular series of stress management books which focus on simple, practical and healthy stress relief strategies, as well as provide FREE resources and services that help women become more stress-resilient.


  1. Darlene, you are so on track for me. Every word rings true. I can’t always manage to do all of these things, but they are my stress triggers. My husband and I now take a short weekend away each year separately, doing what each of us loves to do, but not with each other. While we’re apart, we write each other and support each other and note how much we’re hoping that the other person is having a wonderful time and how much we’ll be joyous when s/he gets home. It has given each of us the freedom to pursue our own passions, and we also have fun with a welcome home reunion, even if we’ve only been apart for a few days.

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