Nine Ways to Beat Loneliness During the Holiday Season


Is loneliness a challenge in your life? Follow these nine ways to beat loneliness in any situation, and especially during the holidays.

It’s okay to feel lonely. Sometimes it just happens. However, you have the power to decide whether you want to wallow in it or meet it head on. When you take decisive action to overcome your loneliness, you can have a smile back on your face in no time.

Here are some helpful strategies to beat loneliness:

  1. Avoid sitting around fretting. When you think about it, getting upset isn’t going to help you, so why do it? If you’re not actively looking for something to fill your time, you’ll find that loneliness catches up with you eventually. Even if you don’t have the company of others, you can seek out ways to use your time in fun and productive ways.
  1. Engage in a new hobby. If you’ve turned to your current hobbies and are still feeling lonely or bored, try to find something new and exciting. Explore a new hobby that you’ve always been meaning to try but haven’t had the time.
  1. Take a class. Taking a class is a good way to come into contact with others who have the same interests as you. So you get double benefits – you learn something new about a subject that interests you and meet new people you have something in common with as well.
  1. Volunteer to help others. When you’re feeling lonely, helping others can be a win-win situation. With volunteer activities, you do something great for the world and get some healthy human interaction in the process.
  1. Get a dog. Dogs are natural friend-finders. If you have a dog, take your dog out for frequent walks in your neighborhood, local dog park, or dog beach. If you don’t have a dog, consider getting one. Dogs help you break the ice with other dog-lovers. There are many online groups of dog owners. Find one of these communities and get involved.


  1. Cultivate spirituality. You’ll likely find likeminded people at your place of prayer or worship. You may even start up a new relationship with a potential lifelong friend.
  1. Talk to strangers. Engage in some light chatter with strangers in public situations. For example, you can strike up a lively conversation while waiting in the grocery store line. Every person in that line is most likely as bored as you are. Pass the time together and you might even start a new friendship.
  1. Call a friend. Look up a friend or family member that you haven’t talked to in awhile and catch up with each other while reminiscing about old times. By the end of your conversation, a happy and nostalgic mood might have replaced the lonely one you were in before.
  1. Start a social group. You can start a social group around a topic that you enjoy. If you’re a stay at home mom, maybe you’ll want to connect with other moms. If you’re really into gardening, maybe you’ll want to meet up and swap tips with some people. Explore different ways to socialize online or put up flyers at local hangout spots.

You’ll find that with the right attitude and some action, you don’t have to sit at home with your loneliness any longer. Use these techniques to meet new friends and enjoy exciting new experiences, starting today!

Please Share Your Thoughts

In the comments below, share with us:

1. Have you dealt with loneliness in your life? In what instance?
2. What helped you cope?

My Top Seven Holistic Stress Relief Techniques for the Holiday Season

Nativity_tree2011Whether or not you are going through a difficult life change at the moment, the holidays can be stressful. With family events, presents to buy, and parties to host, it can seem like there is too much to do in just one month’s time. This leaves many women feeling stressed out, either about their finances, about how long it takes to plan the family Christmas dinner, or just about hosting and spending time with family members who you might very well love, but can also be a negative influence in your life.

A man’s health can be judged by which he takes two at a time – pills or stairs. Joan Welsh

Some women may turn to pharmaceutical solutions to help combat the stress of the holiday season, but there are many holistic treatments that can be used instead to reduce the stress of the holidays. Here are seven of the best non-pharmaceutical, holistic stress relief techniques.

  1. Nutrition – What you eat has a huge effect on your body. If you are eating foods that cause your body stress (as they are hard to process, do not contain the nutrition that your body needs, or are just downright bad for you), your body will be less able to handle all of the other stress that is coming into your life. On the other hand, if you eat natural, holistic foods (plenty of organic vegetables, protein, and fruit), your body will be less stressed and better able to handle other sources of anxiety.
  1. Walking – While just about any kind of exercise is great for your body, walking is especially good for stress relief. Why? Because it gets your heart rate up without putting undue strain on your body. Running, boxing, and other high impact exercises can put too much extra strain on your system, but walking allows you to get the exercise you need, take advantage of exercise’s stress relieving benefits, without encountering any of the negatives. When you fell yourself getting stressed, it is a good idea to throw on your coat and take a walk around the neighborhood, giving your body some time to process what’s going on.
  1. Money Management – The holidays can bring any financial troubles to the forefront. You want to get the best presents for you loved ones and you want to throw the best parties, but both of those endeavors require money. If you are short on money, this can cause anxiety. Making sure you have a handle on your money management is a great way to control exactly how much you spend. Most people save for the holiday season throughout the entire year, but as unexpected expenses crop up, it can be difficult to keep that money set aside. As much as possible, make sure you know where your money is going, at ALL time during the year, and even more so during the holiday season.
  1. Time Management – Nothing can be more stressful than feeling that you do not have enough time to complete all of the tasks that you need to do. What this means is that you have too many to-do’s on your list. You need to cut back or risk facing holiday burnout.
  1. Homemade Gifts – If you love making crafts, there can be something particularly relaxing about creating homemade gifts, instead of just going out and pulling something off of the shelves. Plus, it can cost far less to make your loved ones something special, rather than to purchase something. They will appreciate not only the beautiful gift, but the time and effort you put into making it.
  1. Aromatherapy – Aromatherapy can be seriously helpful when it comes to managing holiday stress. It’s not just about having a pleasant-smelling candle burning while you complete your chores, it’s about finding a scent that really calms the body. As soon as you smell that scent, you will feel more relaxed, even if nothing else in your situation has substantively changed. Some of the most common relaxing oils include peppermint, lavender, sandalwood, and chamomile.
  1. Holiday Stress Support – Don’t let the stress of the holidays overtake and overwhelm you! If you need support, you can find it, either in person or online. There are online support clubs for those who find this time especially difficult, whether it be because of a job loss, a death of a loved one, debt, etc. This support clubs can help you gain perspective so that  you enter the new year feeling positive, optimistic, and balanced.

Now it’s YOUR turn.  Please tell us:

1.  What is your major source of holiday stress right now?

2. Which one(s) of the holistic stress relief strategies above would work best for you?

62% Of Women Say They Would Like to Receive THIS Gift Item For Ladies!

GiftFinding the perfect gift item for ladies to impress all the women in your life may seem difficult—especially if they are the kind of women that already have everything they could ever want or need.  Here’s the good news.  62% of women, say they would like to receive a gift certificate for the holidays or anytime of the year! That makes gift shopping a breeze, doesn’t it?

So with so many gift giving opportunities always approaching all year long, finding gifts that the women in your life actually want, used to be a daunting project—but not anymore.  You can easily give amazon gift certificates to every woman on your list,.  Amazon gift cards NEVER expire and they carry no fees!

Or…you can choose from the list of gifts for women below.  The gift items listed below have been hand-picked by women for women.  That way, you can find something for the women in your life, without losing the element of surprise.

  1. Treadmill Desk – For the working woman who always wants to stay fit! Whether she works from home or just always has extra tasks to get done once she’s home from the office, the desk allows her to complete any task, and the treadmill allows her to get in her workout. This is perfect for the woman who loves to multitask, who finds her everyday workout too boring, and who would love to make her workout do double duty so she has more time with her family. Regardless of the occasion, you really can’t go wrong with this gift.
  1. Clothes Steamer – Have you ever noticed how long it takes to iron something? Even something simple like a pencil skirt? To get those perfectly crisp lines and to banish all wrinkles, even a simple ironing job can take a half hour. Whether she’s a busy mother or a busy professional (or both), most women just don’t have time to iron everything that needs to be ironed and actually get places on time. They have to get up early just to make sure everything for the day is ironed, or else go out in wrinkly clothes. There is an alternative, however, that you can give to the busy women in your life—a clothes steamer. It seriously cuts down on ironing time and actually refreshes clothes (in case she didn’t get a chance to do laundry).
  1. Juicer – Juicers weren’t just a 90’s craze. For the busy woman who maybe doesn’t always have time to eat her daily value of fruit and vegetables, a juicer can be the perfect gift, especially since she needs to avoid the processed sugars and chemicals in commercial juice brands in order to stay healthy and stress-resilient. She’ll be able to squeeze a few more servings of the good stuff into her diet, without having to put up with the crap that food companies sneak into their juice. The nutrients in fruits and vegetables can help the body fight stress, promotes a healthy immune system, and can even boost the mood, making them a perfect present for any woman in your life.
  1. Mixers – Is there a woman in your life who likes to bake? Or who would like to bake if she had the right tools? Until you have a mixer, you might not realize how fun and relaxing baking can be. A mixer does a lot of the heavy lifting, and they are easy to clean and extremely durable. If you pick from the most popular brands of mixers, they can last for decades without needing any kind of maintenance or repairs. Best of all, they come in a vast range of sizes and colors, so you can find a model that will match her kitchen and her needs. If she doesn’t need a giant mixer, she doesn’t have to have one!
  1. Blenders – Blenders are another kitchen tool that are often overlooked as gifts for women and even as useful kitchen appliances. The right blender, however, can make anything from cold smoothies in the summer to hot soups in the winter, and just about anything in between. Having a powerful blender means you can make sauces, and salsas, and salad dressing, and so much more—quickly and easily. A blender is a great gift for the woman who likes making her own meals, but needs a tool that will speed up the process while also broadening the range of meals that she can make.

The five gifts mentioned above AND the Amazon gift certificates are woman-approved and have been hand-picked by women for women! Any busy woman will love any of these gifts, designed to make her life easier, happier, and more stress-resilient! Happy gifting!

10 Ways to Deal With Stress & Major Life Changes During the Holidays

holiday-bluesThe holidays are already a stressful time. Let’s face it, they are probably the most stressful time of the year. No matter how much you love your family, they can also be some of the most stress-inducing people in your life, especially when you are going through a major life challenge like a career change, a divorce, or coping with a disease.

But holiday stress doesn’t just come from your family, or your circumstances, you can levy it on yourself with unrealistic expectations or it can bubble up as a result of past bad experiences during what should be the most relaxing, happy, and stress-free time of year. Instead of letting stress rule your life during the holiday season, we have 10 ways to deal with stress and major life changes e effects of a major life challenge during the holidays.

  1. Join the Holiday S.O.S Club. You’ll get free encouragement, tips, and talks right to your inbox, including even more ways to fight stress and lessen the effect of life challenges during the holiday season. The holidays—regardless of which one(s) you celebrate–all come with the same basic needs and stress-inducing demands…on top of what you are already dealing with on a day to day basis facing your major life challenge! This holiday S.O.S. club can help.
  2. Change your outlook. While dealing with a life challenge, it may seem like the last thing you want to do is be merry and bright, especially when everyone around you is caught up in the hustle and bustle of the season. In reality, however, you can find something to be positive and happy about, despite the challenge you may be facing.  If you change your outlook and embrace the reality of what life has thrown at you, instead of simply dreading the worst that can happen, you’re far more likely to find joy and peace during the holiday season, despite the life challenge you are facing.
  3. Try something new. If you already know that your mother-in-law is going to complain (even on the sly), about your apple pie recipe, there’s a pretty easy way to ensure she has nothing to complain about—don’t make that apple pie. Instead, try something entirely new. Don’t do what you’ve always done. Your life is likely in flux right now, so don’t try to cram it into the same old box.
  4. Try a stress reduction course. Those life challenges, whether they be job loss, death of a loved one, divorce, or disease, can make what is already a stressful time of year, even MORE overwhelming, but —only if you let them. A stress reduction course shows you how to stay on top of the stress caused be these challenges, so you can still have fun this season.
  5. Learn that it is okay to cut back. Trying to do everything yourself can be a major strain on your already over-strained mental, physical and emotionally capacities, which will further exacerbate your stress response. You, like most women, probably spend a lot of time trying to make everything perfect for everyone else and forget that you matter, too. Know that it is okay to cut back or to delegate holiday tasks (like wrapping presents, decorating the house, making cookies) to others or to cut them out altogether.
  6. Stop obsessing about how it was. With life challenges come major life changes. That means a lot of people will be looking back and wishing that life was just the same. Don’t compare your current situation to your past situation and especially don’t compare your life to someone else’s, especially during the holidays when everyone seems happier.
  7. Follow these five tips for reduced holiday stress. Having a life challenge is enough stress without also piling on the stress of the holidays. These tips will help you let go of the stress that is specifically caused by the holidays.
  8. Don’t be afraid to keep your life to yourself. One of the major stresses of the holidays and having a life challenge is being constantly asked about it. Don’t be afraid to tell your family and friends that you don’t want to talk about it if you really don’t want to talk about it. Divert the conversation back to other topics that may be more pleasant for you.  At the same time, make sure to find someone that you can confide in,  someone with whom you share the burdens of the challenges that you are facing.  Talking about the major stressors you are facing is an important step in acknowledging and coping with whatever life throws at you!
  9. Don’t get involved in family squabbles. Just keep reminding yourself that (even if you don’t celebrate Christmas) this season is supposed to be about peace on earth. Your family is going to gossip and squabble—maybe about how to carve the roast beef, but also maybe about the divorce or your illness. You don’t have to get involved.
  10. Invest in a mini-coaching session. Having access to a life challenge coach or a stress management coach, even for a few hours, is a great way to help you gain some perspective and find a way to power through this stressful time of year, without missing out on all the good things that the holidays are supposed to be about. A coach can show you how to still be happy and at peace, even in the middle of your personal storm.

 If you, ( or someone you know),  are currently facing a life challenge, we would love to hear from you and learn about how you cope.  Iron sharpens iron, so feel free to share your thoughts with us by using the comment section below.

5 Tips For Reducing Stress During The Holiday Season

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Do you ever have one of those experiences where something that you really, really enjoy can also be stressful at the same time because of how much you want everything to go right? Well, holidays can often be one of those times and that’s why it’s something that I wanted to address today!

 Although the holiday season can be one of the most welcome times of the year, it can be very stressful for a lot of people. Reducing stress during the holiday season can especially be hectic for busy women who have to prepare large meals, deal with difficult relatives and shop at crowded stores. If the feeling of responsibly for the holiday season is something that always stresses you out, the subject is dealt with in great depth in the HOLIDAY STRESS MANAGEMENT BOOK.

 But here are 5 quick tips for holiday stress relief and a little taste of what you can expect from the book!

 1. Plan Ahead

One of the best ways to relieve some stress during the holidays is to plan ahead. For example, if you have to cook a big Christmas dinner for family members, create a grocery list of the items you need and buy all the items in one shopping trip. Taking the time to plan ahead will definitely save you a lot of hassle during this busy season.

2. Exercise Regularly

Exercising on a regular basis during the holiday season won’t just keep your body in great shape; it will also improve your mood and help alleviate some of that stress you’re feeling. Try to find time to exercise every day for at least 20 minutes. For example, you can go on a walk around your neighborhood in the morning.

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3. Eat As Healthy As You Can

It can be especially difficult during the holidays to eat a healthy diet because there are sugary treats everywhere. However, you should resist the urge to indulge all the time if you want to keep your stress levels down. Fill your diet with a lot of fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean proteins. These foods will give you energy and keep you focused during the holiday season.

4. Don’t Hesitate To Ask For Help

If you are stressed out because you have a lot on your plate, don’t be afraid to ask for help. For example, if you are preparing a big dinner for your family, ask relatives to bring side dishes so that you don’t have to do as much cooking. 

5. Give Yourself a Break

Even if you are super busy, it is still important to give yourself a break during the holiday season. Set aside at least 30 minutes each day to spend time doing what you enjoy. Take a hot bubble bath, take your dog for a walk, read a book or go out to lunch with a friend. If you take time out of your day to do things you enjoy, you will be less stressed during the holidays. If you follow these helpful tips, you can relieve some of that stress you feel so that you can enjoy the holidays. 

I hope you enjoyed taking the time to think about some of these ideas about holiday stress. While many people know that holidays can be stressful, not enough people take the time to realize that holidays really don’t have to be stressful at all when you’re armed with the right advice.

Don’t forget to check out the HOLIDAY STRESS RELIEF BOOK if you want everything you need for a stress-resilient and fun-filled holiday period!

The Kindle book covers many different types of holidays – not just the end-of year holiday season. There are lots of holidays and events throughout the year that can be fun if you take the time to learn how to manage the stress that surrounds them!


To your holiday stress relief success!

Is Finding Just The RIGHT Stress Relief Gift For Your Recipient Stressing You Out?

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Today I want to talk to you about one of those things that you would think would make you feel joyful – and yet often it doesn’t and it just gets you stressed! And that’s gifts!

You can get all excited about giving gifts when a holiday or a special occasion crops up and yet then your mind goes to all of the problems that are associated with it – you don’t want to go and have to choose a gift, will they like it?, will they appreciate it?, do they already have one?, you can’t really afford to buy gifts right now…and the list goes on.

So today, I wanted to give you some practical ideas about the ways that you can give stress relief gifts, help relieve the stress of the recipient, save you lots of money and also relieve your own stress in the process!

 Does it sound too good to be true? Well it’s not. And here’s the idea: Homemade Stress Relief Gifts!

There are many reasons why people feel stressed during the holiday seasons and almost all through the year with weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, retirement and other gift-giving obligations. Besides family and money issues, many people feel stressed about buying the right gifts for their friends and family members. There is one possible option, however, that many fail to consider: making gifts.

Here are a few of the reasons why making gifts can reduce your stress levels.


First, homemade gifts are cheaper than gift’s bought at the store. This does not mean, however, that homemade gifts are a poor choice. While gifts may cost little in terms of money, they do take a significant amount of time. Instead of investing money in gifts, you can instead invest time.

Fun and stress-busting!

Further, fun projects help us reduce our stress levels. Many experts suggest finding a fun hobby as a means of relieving stress. If you have artistic skills, take advantage of them during the holiday season. If you do not have special skills in any particular artistic field, use some of your time off of work to learn a new skill. You may find that you enjoy this new skill even after the holiday season ends.

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Greater appreciation

Although many people worry that those who receive homemade gifts will not enjoy them as much as store-bought gifts, the reverse is actually true in most cases. It is easy to buy a gift for someone, but making them a gift shows true dedication. People often care less about the monetary value of their gifts and more about what they mean. Making a gift shows a dedication to the recipient, and these gifts tend to be far more memorable than anything that can be found at a store.


Making gifts is also a great way to spend time with your family. Those who have children can use gift-making as a way to spend more time with them and teach them valuable skills. Children love artistic projects, and they will get to watch as the gifts’ recipients open their presents and express gratitude. Further, this can be used to start a tradition of making items for gifts during holiday season and all year long.

Holidays are a time for bonding, and gift-making projects can be a great way to bond with your children. For some, stress is unavoidable during the holidays. While the holidays are meant to be a time of relaxation and fun, family situations may make stress a reality.

By making gifts, however, you may be able to find significant relief from the burdens of the holiday season. Starting an annual tradition of making gifts might be just the thing you need to relax during difficult holiday seasons.

I just know that you’ll have lots of interesting homemade gift ideas racing through your mind after reading these tips so I want to let you know that I’ve written a Kindle book that not only delves into the reasons why homemade stress relief products are the best products for reducing your stress and the stress of the recipient, I’ve also put together some amazing ideas of PERFECT stress-busting gifts AND how to make them!

You’re going to love it so be sure to check it out if you get a chance!


To your stress relief success!

7 Holiday Stress Relief Tips To Use During Family Gatherings

holiday-stress-relief3Whenever extended families get together during holidays there may be a need for holiday stress relief tips.

Most families have conflicts every now and then.

The key is not to allow personal conflicts to ruin the entire family gathering.

Regardless of the situation there is a lot YOU can do to help keep conflicts to a minimum during family reunions, holidays, or special events.

Family Holiday Stress Relief Tips To Minimize Conflict & Confrontation

1. Be a peace-maker.

Often times family conflicts can drag on unnecessarily. If you are involved in an ongoing conflict that can’t be resolved before the family get together, make it a point to put the whole thing on hold. It may require great effort, but do your best to set those negative feelings aside for the time being.

You stand to benefit the most, since making peace opens the way for you to enjoy yourself at the event.

2. Look back at the good times.

You probably face a challenge with one specific person. If you look back over the years of knowing the person, you may be able to recall memories of good times you shared together. Try to focus on those good times instead of the recent tensions between you.

That may be easier said then done, but in the end you will feel much better and can enjoy the event much more.

3. Focus on the food.

holiday-stress-reliefFamily get togethers are usually great opportunities to enjoy delicious food. Food can be a nice distraction from family conflicts, but that does not mean that you should go overboard.

Whenever I attend a family get together I can always look forward to my mom’s home made apple pie. Not to mention the spread of snacks, main courses, and other dessert items. I usually grab my favorites and dig in, paying little attention to any ongoing family conflicts that may exist.

So focusing on the food is one family holiday stress relief tip that works for me!

4. Quietly resolve the conflict.

In some situations you simply may not be able to put a conflict aside. The best approach in that scenario is to deal head-on but with a COOL head. Your main objective should be to solve the challenge and contribute to a happy and enjoyable family event.

Losing your cool could mean that you would go down in history for starting a scene during that reunion or get-together.

That’s not the kind of family memories you want to create, is it?

5. Stay clear of third-party arguments.

Perhaps you are at peace with everyone, but tensions and ongoing conflicts are a problem for other friends and family at the event. Don’t contribute to the taxing situation by getting involved or taking sides. Do your best to stay out of the conflict. Adding more fire to the mix never helps.

If you insist on getting involved, perhaps you can point out some of the practical holiday stress relief tips in this article. Then take your leave and allow the people involved with the conflict to work out the situation themselves.

6. Get a little breathing space.

stress-relief-informationI have been at family gatherings where things got too heated for my tastes, so I temporarily removed myself from the situation. You can do the same if you need too. Perhaps you can take the dog outside for a walk.

I usually busy myself with the little ones. Walking away from a challenging confrontation may be just what you need to clear your head and calm down. Decide now, how you would use any of these 7 family holiday stress relief tips to work out your problem in a way that doesn’t involve fighting.

7. Don’t take part in turbulent topics.

Some topics of conversation can easily lead to strong emotions or difference of opinions. You may already know what those topics are for your family. So make sure not to bring them up and if someone else brings up a “forbidden topic” try to change the subject before the discussion escalates into something worse.

Family get-togethers are a wonderful time of peace and blessings. Don’t let tension and conflict rob you of those blessings. Use the family holiday stress relief tips above and focus on the good things about your family. If you do that you’ll survive all the togetherness!

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5 Ways to Enjoy Holidays without Stress

The holidays have become almost synonymous with stress. Whether family is coming, you are planning to entertain friends, or just have to prepare your house for the season, stress abounds and what was supposed to be a vacation from the anxiety of life, becomes one of the most hectic times of the year.

Whatever holiday you celebrate, you probably know what I’m talking about. So how can you enjoy holidays without stress? But there are a few ways you can make your holiday less stressful.

1)      Plan ahead but stay flexible. Admittedly, most of us are already planners. We plan voraciously, trying to make every detail perfect long before our mother-in-law, sisters, or uncles appear on our doorstep. And that’s fine. Where the stress comes in is when nothing goes according to plan. There’s no reason to throw a fit if Aunt Margret shows up with a pumpkin pie (even though you expressly asked her to make apple) just as you are putting yours in the oven. It’s the ability to accept what comes that will make the holiday enjoyable, not the perfectly measure place settings.

2)      Stick with recipes you know. Some of us are adventurous cooks, and when the holidays start to roll around, we think it might be fun to try something new. And while that may be true, it may be too risky unless  we could predict and ensure a positive outcome. Instead of trying to make a deep-fried turkey out on the back porch, stick with your tried-and-true oven-roasted version, which you know will please and will come out perfectly every time.

3)      Make it a family affair. Some women try to take everything on themselves, but it can be more fun and less stressful to involve your husband or kids in the cooking and preparations. Kids love to decorate cookies and your husband is more than capable of slicing vegetables for stuffing. If you use this time to talk and laugh with your family, the whole event will be more fun.

4)      Instead of a meal, try an activity. Eating a giant meal may be fun for them, but it’s hectic and stressful for you. If you usually make Thanksgiving, Christmas, or Hanukah meals for the entire family, try something new. Doing something as a family can be more fun (and less pressure on you as cook) than waiting around for a large meal. Try ice-skating, singing songs, playing board games,  or a walk around the neighborhood to see decorations.

5)      Make it about the family. The holidays often become directed towards the decorations, the presents, and the food. But no matter what holiday you celebrate, the focus should be the family. If you find yourself tearing your hair out about what you’re going to make, where everyone is going to stay, and if you can afford presents for all the nieces and nephews, remember that spending time with the family, bonding as a unit, is the real aim of the holidays.


How to Deal with Family Conflict During the Holidays

What is it about the holidays that brings conflict to a family? Who else wants to know how to deal with family conflict during the holidays?

Relationship experts say it is the close quarters and heightened stress that makes this time of year a veritable breeding ground for yelling and hurt feelings. It has become almost expected for families to fight during their holiday meals, and has become so mainstream that holiday family conflicts are the subject of countless movies. If you’re not interested in the drama that has become expected during what is supposed to be season of cheer, peace, and love, take a look at these five tips for dealing with family conflicts.

1)      Don’t overdo it. Though we typically attribute tantrums to our young children, too many activities, in too many places can lead to grumpiness and even outright anger even in the most mature among your brood. Instead of trying to do everything, pick a few fun activities and make sure there is plenty of time for your relatives to decompress and just spend time together. Instead of dragging everyone to the mall to shop for gifts, put the kinds and grandparents in front of a movie and take those who volunteer to get some shopping done.

2)      Be prepared. If you already know that two feuding family members are going to come into contact, have a contingency plan. Whether you don’t allow them to stay in your house or separate them during meals, make sure they don’t have an opportunity to get into it.

3)      You don’t have to get into the middle of it. Sometimes it’s enough to send the fighters out of the room and let them have it out, away from the kids, away from interrupting spouses, parents, and siblings. The influences of all the voices around them can escalate a small disagreement into a major problem in no time at all. Especially if the conflict has nothing to do with you, the best thing to do is send them away from the table until they can be cordial to one another.

4)      Be the peacemaker. If neither separation or sequester work, it may be time for you to step in. Especially if they are making the celebrations uncomfortable for everyone in the house, you can ask them to please act like adults, at least while the kids are watching.

5)      Realize that the holidays are not the time to hash everything out. Holidays are supposed to be fun. They are supposed to be a time of coming together and nostalgia. They should not be the time that the siblings fight about who got what portion of your grandmother’s estate, or who mother loved best, or who stole whose boyfriend in high school. Sometimes family members need to be reminded that your house, during the holiday season is not the place to dredge up old wounds. Especially if you are hosting them in your home, you can tell your family members that they can do this on their own time, on their own turf.

Holiday Stress Relief Tips: Stay Centered On What Matters Most

During the hectic holiday season every could use some holiday stress relief tips. When your head is pretty much all over the place, for sure getting stressed out is just around the corner.

I always like to think of this as my to do list. I mark the ones that are of high priority, if things turns out unexpectedly, then you would want to go back to what has the highest priority. In life, you set yourself straight to your goals. So if my family needs me, the rest gets overridden as this is the highest priority on my list. So, learn more about yourself and stay grounded to what matters to you most.

In the comments below, tell me about:
1. What are your highest priorities in life?
2. Do you have your own personal tricks that keeps you grounded to your priorities?

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