Child Safety Seats: Easy Guidelines to Prevent Tragedy

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Be a smart parent. Learn these important guidelines for the proper use of child safety seats.

Safety seats in your car are the best way to protect a child in the event of an accident. The position of traditional seat belts and the airbags designed to protect adults are not sufficient to protect children in the car. Small statures and low weights make it difficult for the standard safety features to prevent a child from being thrown from the vehicle during a front-end collision or from being seriously injured during a side collision. While it is unlikely that you will ever need the life-saving features of a safety seat, it is always better to be too safe, than not safe enough.

  1. Find a seat that is the right size for the child’s age, height, and weight. Most safety seats will have general guidelines to help you choose a seat that will protect your child, but it is important not just to buy one that is the right “age” for your child, but actually the right size. Most child safety seats will also be rated for certain height and weight strata, so use those guidelines to pick the right size for your child.
  1. Read reviews and test the seat. Before committing to a safety seat, you will want to thoroughly read the reviews. Chances are, there will be someone who has actually seen this seat “in action,” and can testify either to how safe it is or how unsafe it is. Don’t just look at the overall rating, read through the reviews one by one, paying attention to those who mention how safe it is and how comfortable it is. Once you have a selected a seat, try it in your car before really committing to it. You can always take a seat back if it does not have the features or the protection you need.
  1. Make sure your seat is properly installed. Your child safety seat will come with instructions and a diagram for ensuring it is properly installed. Review that information before you actually put your child in the seat, so you can make sure that it is correctly secured in your vehicle. Having a seat that is incorrectly installed is as bad as having no safety seat at all. Follow the instructions and check your work before you drive away.

If you follow these guidelines when selecting, buying, and using child safely seats, you’ll be well on your way to preventing a tragedy when an accident happens.

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Pass These Good Financial Management Habits on to Your Children!

Teach your children to adopt good financial management habits and to avoid these negative ones.

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Many parents complain that their children never listen to them.

While that may be true, there is good news.

The good news (and at the same time the bad news) is that your children are always watching.

If you ever tell your kids “Do as I say and not as I do” you know what I may.  Kids are less likely to do what you say, and MUCH more likely to do what they see you do!

The same principle applies when it comes to good financial management habits.

Your children may not listen to you, but they will quickly assimilate your habits and attitudes ( good or bad) regarding money. What habits are you demonstrating that could potentially harm their financial future?

When faced with uncertainty, it’s common to rely on experience. Before you know it, your kids  will be all grown up and may be off to college.  When they are confronted with financial situations, they’re going to imitate and mimic what they know. It’s up to you to set an example that will enhance their financial future.

Most likely, you have not given much thought to what you may be inadvertently teaching your kids about money. Today is a wonderful day to start.

4 Bad Financial habits you may be displaying that could make life more challenging for your kids:

  1.  You use your credit cards unwisely. In my opinion, this is the most devastating financial habit you may be inadvertently teaching your kids. True, credit cards can serve a purpose when you are in a financial jam, but the use of credit to purchase unnecessary items is one of the leading causes of financial stress and bankruptcy.  Don’t pass that negative financial habit on to your kids.
  2. You give in to impulse purchases. Children are already inherently spontaneous and impulsive.  That comes with being a kid.  Don’t let them witness a lack a financial control in you when it comes to money management. Your lack of control in spending money makes self-control even more elusive for your child in the future. Show your children that purchases should be decided ahead of a shopping trip….starting as early as when you sit down to plan your expenses to include in your budget. 
  3. You never stick to your budget.  Having a budget is a good start, but if you never stick to it, you are teaching your children bad financial habits. Sticking to your budget is another important way that you teach your kids financial self-control.  Involve your children in the budgeting process, and then remind them that a budget exists and that certain purchases can’t be made because of the budget. 
  4. You never make a clear distinction between wants and needs.  Teach your kids that needs are to be taken care of first. Wants are only considered after the critical items have been addressed.  Learning and understanding the difference between wants and needs is a valuable lesson your children need to grasp early on in their development.

Ask yourself if you are inadvertently displaying those 4 bad financial habits to your children. Remember: they may not listen to you, but they are always watching you!

While you make an effort to minimize or avoid showing your kids bad habits, make a point to develop and display good financial management habits.  These are the kinds of positive financial habits that can benefit you now while at the same time help your help your children to develop good habits from watching and imitating your good example.

Start displaying and sharing these 4 good financial management habits:

  1. Start saving consistently. Make this a main teaching point by saving money from each paycheck. Encourage your child to do the same with a portion of any money they earn or receive as a gift.  I give my 12-year old adopted niece chores and assignments to do and she can earn income when she completes them.  We then go to the bank together and she gets the “honor” of depositing the earnings to her savings account.  She gets excited each time she makes a deposit and sees her savings grow.  She is learning how to work and save money toward her financial goals. I also show her my savings and how I too am saving toward my financial goals. You can do the same thing with you kids. A robust savings account is an effective solution to many of life’s financial challenges.  It’s one of the valuable lessons you need to teach your kids from a young age.
  2. Start Paying bills on time. Your children know that you have to pay bills every month and they see those bills with the words “Past Due.” They also notice when you avoid the bill collectors that call day and night. And rest assured that they pay attention to the comments you make about the bill collectors and the financial bind you may be facing. What are your actions and comments teaching them?  Start doing your best to pay your bills on time and avoid the late fees. You’ll be setting a great example for your child and giving him a wonderful financial management heritage.
  3. Start teaching them that making great financial strides requires sacrifice. Let your children know that you’re not buying a new car because it’s more important to save for their college or retirement. Give them the option of making a small purchase at the sacrifice of something else. All financial decisions have positive and negative consequences.
  4. Start showing them the rewards of financial responsibility. No one wants to sacrifice all the time. The whole point of sacrificing is to enjoy the end result. Show your children that regularly saving money results in a vacation or a new television. Let your kids see and experience the positive outcome of good financial habits. My niece is saving towards her own vacation shopping funds.  She wants to buy a new cell phone and new clothes.  She’s already made her shopping list, and is eagerly looking forward to enjoying the rewards of her own financial responsibility. …getting everything on her list that she worked so hard and saved up for. 

Are you demonstrating good financial management habits to your children? Are you demonstrating poor habits?

You have a tremendous amount of influence over your child’s financial future. They’re likely to behave in a fashion similar to what they see in you.

Consider what you’re teaching your child each day with your money management habits.

If it’s not good, now is the time to change it and improve your money management skills.  If it’s good.  Congratulations.  You are raising future adults who will have good financial management habits!

Please Share Your Thoughts 

 In the comments below, share with us:

1. What steps are you taking to teach your children financial responsibility?
2. Do you have any tips to share that have worked well in your family?

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Attention Career Moms – Follow These Working Mom Tips to Balance Your Career and Home Life

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In this day and age, it’s becoming more and more difficult to live off of one income. This means that oftentimes moms have few options when it comes to the decision of whether or not to work while raising children.

If you’ve decided to keep up with your career, whether through choice or necessity, you’ll be busy, but you can certainly make it work. You’ll be rewarded in the end because you won’t have to worry about re-entry into the workforce once the kids are older, and you may opt to continue building your own 401K for retirement purposes.

Scheduling and Planning

When you ask most working moms about how they do it, you’ll often hear about their particular scheduling and planning habits. It’s important to work out a set schedule that works for you personally.

Consider the following working mom tips:

  1. Plan your mornings. If you’re not a morning person, try completing some of your morning tasks the evening before. Set aside enough time to get the kids up and dressed if they’re not old enough to do it themselves. If you can, enjoy a meal together as a family before the day’s commitments.
  1. Schedule events. Schedule your after work activities in a planner. This will ensure that there’s room for everything and that nothing important is forgotten along the way. Play dates, grocery shopping, and other errands can be scheduled as well.
  1. Be flexible. Remember that everything won’t always go perfectly. If something doesn’t work out and you need to rearrange your schedule, just plan to do something on a different day. Since you’re juggling many tasks at once, keeping your schedule flexible is a must for keeping your stress levels down.

Staying Involved

One of the top worries of working moms is the fact that they feel like they’re not as involved. However, if you concentrate on spending the time you do have with your little ones in a quality way, you’ll still be heavily involved in their lives. Just because you aren’t there every minute, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t making a big difference in their lives.

300x250 copyWhen you arrive home from work, do something with your children that you’ll all enjoy. Maybe they’ll want some alone time to play independently, but you can also stay involved by showing that you care. You’ll have quality time with them at meals, and you can always engage them in family games or other activities.

Taking Breaks

It’s vital that you remember to schedule some breaks. If you need a “spa day” every once in awhile, it’s certainly something that you deserve. Sometimes you’ll feel that you spend every waking moment either at work or worrying about the children, so take some time to unwind. Read a book after the kids have gone to bed, work on your relationship with your spouse, or engage in something you find relaxing.

Your Relationships

Spend individual time with each member of your family. Be sure to remember your partner during life’s crazy times and give that relationship some much-needed nourishment as well. Individual attention will help you get to know your kids better, and you’ll have time to truly build upon your lasting relationship.

A career mom is a truly special person. Sure, life can get really hectic at times, but if you follow these tips, you’ll be able to strike a happy balance between your career and your life at home.

Please Share Your Working Mom Tips With Us

In the comments below, share with us:

1. What techniques have you used in the past to help with your working mom stress?

2. What is your morning routine like?

 

Stress Management for Parents: Guidelines & Tips That Work!

christian-parenting-helpAll parents face mounting degrees of stress as part of raising kids in our modern world. Stress management for parents can bring some welcome relief. If you are a working mom, you may need a crash course in managing life’s ups and downs. The challenge of juggling the demands of work with your priorities in the family may soon demand every ounce of your creativity and energy.

Most likely, you will be able to manage the time at the office but the real challenge lies in organizing your household. This will require that you sharpen your organization skills or develop them if you have not already done so.

If not managed well, these tasks can become very taxing and overwhelming. That’s why reading articles like this about stress management for parents can be helpful. You get to read about ways that other parents deal with their daily tasks as well as share ideas and tips that work.

Experienced parents sharpen their organizational skills over time. Experience truly is the best teacher, but when you are new at parenting it’s only natural to feel slightly overwhelmed by the responsibility that comes with parenthood. Here are a few tips on stress management for parents and practical solutions that work.

Set Priorities And Stick To Them

One of the best ways to manage your life and household responsibility as a busy parent is to learn how to properly set priorities. A day only has 24 hours, so setting proper priorities is essential. As demanding and as important as your job might be, it pales in comparison to the importance of your kids. So make them your priority.

Going out with colleagues after work or taking on extra tasks and responsibilities at work, are things you will have to delegate to the past. Long-term and effective stress management for parents requires that you recognize the need to set priorities and make the appropriate adjustments in your schedule.

Share and Delegate Household Duties

stress-management-for-parents2Working moms usually have a double shift, one at the office and one at home. If hiring domestic help fits in the family budget, then you are one of the lucky few. Make full use it.

Most women however may not have the luxury of a maid, so sharing and delegating household duties is the best way to avoid burnout from running a double shift at work and at home 7 days a week. Have a talk with your partner and agree on areas where he can help. Raising kids and running a household requires team work. Assigning appropriate household duties to everyone in the home is effective stress management for parents.

The younger can make their beds, put away their toys every day, and put their dirty clothes in the laundry basket. Older kids can clean their rooms, clean the yard, or run basic errands. Mom and dad can alternate between who prepares dinner and who does the dishes after dinner. If done properly, sharing and delegating household duties will reduce your frustration levels and strengthen the bonds within your family.

Make Good Planning A Part of Your Routine

Moms are usually the managers of the home. That means that you get to plan what needs to get done each day. For best results, it best to plan ahead and decide what you want to achieve the following day or even for the entire week. The smooth running of your home is often directly linked to your organization and planning skills.

Here are a few things you can plan ahead of time:

  • Create the weeks menu ahead of time.
  • Prepare your grocery shopping list ahead of time
  • Schedule in proper time for grocery shopping
  • Prepare meals ahead of time when possible, scheduling in freezer meals for busy days
  • Plan weekly fun family activities that everyone can participate in and enjoy.

Stress management for parents usually involves a lot planning and a little common sense. If you set proper priorities, delegate household duties and make good planning a part of your daily routine, you’ll be way ahead of the game.

Then you can spend more time enjoying your kids and less time feeling overworked, over-committed and overwhelmed!

 

Parental Stress Tips And Guidelines That Work!

Every mother will be confronted with parental stress at one time or another.

Your kids are the most wonderful part of her life, but they can sometimes be the root cause of some of your most intense moments of worry and anxiety. Parental strain is a natural consequence of your deep love and care for your kids. That’s why you may feel worry and sometimes anger at some of the things they do.

 

You MUST Take Care Of Yourself!

The more you take care of yourself the better equipped you will be to handle parenting problems and strengthen the bonds with your children.

As a parent, it’s important that you take care of yourself so that you have the energy and clarity to be a good mother. Especially if you are raising teenagers.

You may be dealing with parental stress, financial problems, work issues, and relationship woes all at once. Such excessive levels of strain and tension can be one of the main causes of sleeplessness.

Now more than ever, you need to find ways to take care of yourself. Don’t let your physical and emotional health slide. Remember, a well running car needs fuel and proper maintenance to function optimally.

Take time to refresh, refuel and nourish your mind, body and soul.

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Tips For Dealing With Teenagers

Turbulent times and regular quarreling is typical of most parent-teen relationships, but you do not have to let it get out of control.

Teenage parenting will require a commitment on your part to make the quarrels a thing of the past and to strengthen your relationship with your teenage child. The truth is, your teenager needs your guidance now more than ever.

Peer pressure in school is intense and your kids are exposed to all kinds of temptations and stresses of their own.

Whether you realize it or not, your child may be exposed to pressure to get involved in smoking, drinking, drugs, and sex at school every day. 

Don’t you want your kids to feel comfortable talking to you about their problems and challenges so that you can guide them in the right direction?

If this all seems easier said that done, that’s because it is! There comes a point where your strength ends and faith begins. You cannot be with your child 24/7.

Your natural body is bound by physical limitations, but through prayer, you can accompany your children wherever they go.

The best possible Christian parenting help is available through the power of prayer. You can pray for your children’s safety.

The modern, fast paced, high tech world we live in filled with uncertainty and violence. Learning to pray for the safety of your children will ease your mind since prayer and faith can shield you from undue anxiety and worry about the welfare of your children.

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Tips For Dealing With Toddlers And Pre-Teens

If you have little ones, then you may be experiencing a different kind of parental stress.

The terrible twos may be wearing you down. The best solution in that situation may be to spend some time playing with your toddler. You can paint, draw, blow bubbles or play outside and relax instead of worrying about temper tantrums, potty training, and finicky eating habits.

If your child’s a bit older, try going for a walk together and make a fun game of talking about the things you encounter.

I did that once and I realized that kids love spending time outdoors. They are fascinated by small animals and plants.

A single parent family is also a source of high levels of parental stress. If you are looking for help for single mothers, start by implementing these 2 suggestions below :

1. Budget your money. Financial hardship is one of the most common stressors for single mothers. Often times, your financial problems could be eased by making a budget and sticking to it.

You can avoid financial panic by planning properly and researching single mom resources that can beneficial for you.

2. Strive to maintain a peaceable relationship with your ex-spouse. Many single mothers make the mistake of bad-mouthing their ex to the child.

Some even go as far as using the child as a spy to find out what is going on in the ex’s life. Do not fall into that trap. It does more harm to the child that you may think.

The best “gift” you can give to your child is a peaceful relationship with her father. It will certainly alleviate your parental stress as well!

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Raising Teenagers: Practical Tips And Guidelines That Work!

Raising teenagers can be a real challenge in this day and age. Times have changed so drastically, and in many ways not for the better.

Teenagers are exposed to a wide spectrum of challenges and pressure which some parents don’t seem to grasp.

However, when parents make the effort to get to know their teenagers, to understand the pressures they face, and to talk to them about the tough choices they face, the rewards can be great.

Most teenagers are smart and can make the right decisions just like any adult would if they have the proper knowledge and guidance. Unfortunately, for most parents that may be easier said than done.

Raising teenagers can be a bitter sweet pill for many parents.

On the one hand, you are proud of your teenager who is growing in to adulthood and desiring more independence. On the other hand, you may not be quite ready to let go and give her the freedom she craves. This is natural.

Every parent throughout all the generations experienced a similar “battle”.

The trick is having the wisdom to know when your teenager is ready to learn certain lessons and having the confidence to “gradually” let go.

And yes…that is much easier said than done!

Treat Your Teenager As A Young Adult

Don’t make the common mistake of treating your teenagers like children.

Sure, as far as you are concerned, your teenager will always be “your baby”, but as your teenager starts going through the physical, mental and emotional changes of puberty and adolescent, she will resent being treated as a child.

Rightfully so.

She is now a young adult, eager and curious about life and all it has to offer. Isn’t that how YOU felt when you were a teenager? If you eye her every move and talk down to her, you’ll eventually lose her trust.

She will turn to her friends or someone else ( anyone but you) to confide in, and share her thoughts and concerns with.

A better strategy when raising teenagers is to allow them to be themselves while at the same time nurturing and guiding them when they need it.

If you treat them as young adults and give them some space to be themselves, they’re more likely to open up to you.

You may be saying to yourself…”but giving my teenager too much freedom is a recipe for disaster”. And you would be 100% correct.

That is what makes raising teenagers so challenging.

It’s a constant challenge for parents of teenagers to walk that fine line between treating them like a young adult, while still exerting some parental control.

That requires skill, wisdom, insight, and a lot of self control. It’s tough to watch your teenager make mistakes that you think you could have prevented.

The only thing you can really do is give them advice when they are open to it and help them to see the risks and harm of not following the advice given.

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Raising Teenagers Means Talking About Sex

If you feel awkward talking about sex with your teen, you’re not alone. Most parents feel that way.

There is a good chance your teenager already knows a great deal about this topic, so you won’t have to start from the “beginning” with the birds and bees.

But be prepared to give honest answers if your teenager ask you questions. Think about it this way. Who would you rather they get information from?

From you? From some friend at school? From the internet? Obviously, its much better for them to be getting information from you.

You’ll know that what you’re providing is accurate, and you’ll be building a lasting relationship with your teen that will grow into adulthood.

Raising Teenagers Means Talking About Drugs

The topic of drugs is another important one that must be discussed when raising teenagers. When it comes to drugs, the earlier you have the discussion with your kids the better.

Children should be taught to avoid drugs even before they become teenagers, but it’s certainly a topic you should bring up with your teenagers as well.

Try to find out what they think and how they feel about the topic, without coming across as judgmental and without jumping to conclusions.

Raising Teenagers Means Trusting Them

After you have done all you could do, raising teenagers comes down to the issue of trust. Bear in mind that trust is a two way street. Trust has to be earned on both sides of the equation.

When your teen makes good decisions based on your advice and guidance, your trust in her grows and its easier for you to give her more and more independence.

And when you give your teenager the benefit of your trust, she also has a chance to grow into the responsible adult you would like her to be.

Christian Parenting Help: Divine Guidelines For Modern Day Moms

Christian parenting help can be especially beneficial for modern day moms. 

Every mom will agree that her kids are the most wonderful part of her life. When the bundle of joy first entered your life it was instant love at first sight. The joys of motherhood are indescribable.

But as the kids get older, you soon discover that raising kids in this modern world can be a major source of anxiety.

For Christian parents who are doing their best to raise their kids in a god fearing way, the challenge is twice as daunting. Fortunately, there is an abundance of Christian parenting help.

Parenting Guidelines From The Bible

The bible is not a parenting handbook but it does offer sound advice to parents.

For one thing, the bible encourages you as a christian parent to correct and discipline your children with a spirit of love.

True, your kids can sometimes do things that make you really mad. In fact, its because you care so much and love them so intensely, that you sometimes react to some of the troublesome things they do with anger.

Jesus gives us a good example.

Recall how his disciples constantly argued amongst themselves about who was the greatest. Recall too, how Jesus disciples failed to live up to his expectations on various occasions.

Jesus never grew bitterly angry with them. Instead, he always showed patience and corrected them in a spirit of love. If grown adults required Jesus’ patience and mild temper when correcting them, what about your kids?

Practical Advice For Raising Teens

If you are raising teenagers then you may be in special need of Christian parenting help.

Parenting challenges don’t have to ruin your bond with your child, on the contrary you can use taxing situations to build a closer relationship with your teenagers.

If you are looking for Christian parenting help for raising teenagers, then you should first take a look at your parenting style.

  • Are you approachable?
  • More importantly, does your teenager see you as approachable?
  • Are you available when your teenager needs someone to talk to or confide in?
  • Would they feel safe confiding in you? Or would they confide in their friends rather than risk a judgmental tone or an overreaction from you?

These are questions worth asking and discussing as a family. So much is at stake.

Help Your Kids Cope With Their Stress

Remember, your kids are experiencing pressure from various sources too!

Think of the peer pressure that your teenagers are confronted with at school every day-temptations to smoke, to cheat on exams, to do drugs, to engage in premarital sex.

Think back on the pressures you faced when you were their age and then multiply that by 100!!

Children are under immense strain of their own every day, so when you work on reducing your own tension, try to incorporate Christian parenting help and techniques that can keep you both balanced and focused on your Christian identity.

While it’s important to get your own anxiety levels under control, it’s equally important that you monitor your child’s stress levels too. You need to make sure that they aren’t reacting to their anxiety in a way that will harm themselves or others.

The BEST Example You Can Follow

Raising children is a challenge in our modern world. Its essential that your children see you as an approachable and reasonable mom.

Fortunately, Jesus Christ himself left the best example for Christian moms to follow.

Despite the weighty responsibilities he faced, he was always approachable and reasonable with those around him. You can find a useful lesson here.

Despite the weighty responsibilities you face each day to provide for your family’s physical and material needs, its equally important that you remain approachable and available for your kids.

Find things you can all do and enjoy together, like listening to music together, going camping, or going to the mall to do some shopping.

The more quality and quantity time you spend with your kids, the greater the bond of friendship and trust that will develop between you.

Few families eat dinner together nowadays. And yet, eating dinner together and talking about your day, is one of the best ways to grow closer to your kids.

Dinner time also allows you to get a grasp of the pressures and problems they face and to offer christian parenting help to keep them focused on what is most important.

Make sure not to scold them while they eat. Instead, make dinner time a precious opportunity to get your kids to open up to you. See it as a golden opportunity to help them solve the problems they face.

It’s a great way to allow everyone time to share their feelings and gain the support they need – including you!

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Easy Divorce Stress Tips For Smart Moms and Their Kids

There’s no doubt that divorce stress can take a toll on every member of the family. Even in cases when divorce seems to be the best solution, in reality there are NO winners.

Divorce leaves a trail of broken hearts, broken lives and broken promises behind. For many women, it can be a devastating and shattering life experience. But women are not the only victims of divorce stress.

If there are kids involved, it’s usually the kids that are hit the hardest by the divorce. And the younger the child is the more difficult it may be for her to grasp what is going on.

She loves mommy and daddy and cannot understand why they won’t live together anymore. Seeing your child suffer as a result of divorce only adds to your own emotional pain the break-up is causing.

3 Tips For Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce Stress

1. Talk about what is happening. The more you talk to your children about the divorce the better it will be for both of you.

Talking is a good form of therapy. Don’t keep your pain all bottled up inside. Open and honest conversation that is appropriate to the age of your child help her sort out her own worries about what will happen next. Kids often blame themselves when their parents get a divorce so talking with your children is important in helping them to see that the divorce has nothing to do with them.

Whatever you do, do NOT act like nothing is going on. Kids instinctively know when there is a problem. If you do not talk to them, they are more likely to blame themselves for everything. That would be the ultimate tragedy.

2. Avoid The Blame Game. When a relationship ends in divorce, its easy to point fingers at the “guilty” party.

As much as the “blame game” may make you feel better temporarily, it rarely eases the pain and chaos that comes with getting a divorce. Regardless of which adult is to blame for the divorce, make sure your children know that the divorce is not their fault. Since the kids seldom know the true cause of the divorce, they often blame themselves.

Some kids may even start to believe that there’s something they can do to patch up the relationship and stop the divorce altogether. While dealing with your own broken heart, make sure you help your kids come to terms with their own feelings and hurt about the divorce as well.

3. Secure A Stable Parenting Partnership. If children are involved, this is where divorce stress can present a real challenge for women.

Your marriage is ending, but the parenting partnership has to continue. Your kids STILL need their Mom and Dad. You need to reassure them that mom and dad both love them very much.

With all the changes your child will be confronted with as a result of the divorce, she needs to know that one thing – the most important thing of all – isn’t going to change. She needs to know that her mom and dad still love her and that BOTH will be there for her, no matter what!

Coping with divorce can be especially challenging for women since you have to deal with your own shattered dreams of the “happily ever after” you envisioned when you got married. But when there are children involved, the situation is compounded many times over.

Divorce Is An Evil Reality Of Modern-Day Living

Divorce is undoubtedly one of the most evil realities of modern day living. As the statistics continue to rise exponentially so do the numbers of women, men, and children suffering from divorce stress.

If divorce is a necessary evil that you are currently coping with, it does not have to destroy your health or affect how you raise your children. Use the three tips above to cope with the situation and if you have kids, remember their needs too!

If you do that, you’ll both survive what could very well be the biggest challenge and most painful period you will ever face as a family.

 

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The Seven Biggest Causes Of Stress For Modern Day Women

As a woman you face daily pressures and challenges from a wide variety of sources. But the seven biggest causes of stress for women comes from certain specific areas that can easily be identified.

Knowing and identifying the main causes of stress that affect you as a woman is the most important step in successfully managing and reducing your tension.

The following are the seven biggest causes of stress for most women.

#1 Economic Recession

Unless you have been living on mars or under a rock for the last 3 years, you’ve probably felt the pinch of the economic recession. It’s a reality and the news seems to get worse every day.

Flip on the news or read a newspaper and you will hear about one more company that is declaring bankruptcy, downsizing or desperately seeking bailout funds from the government.

Since women tend to earn less than men, and perhaps worry more than men do, the economic collapse has probably left you feeling much pressure and anxiety.You worry about losing your job, losing your home, sending your kids to college, putting food on the table, among other things. Rightfully so, since we do need money to live!

Money woes is therefore one of the biggest causes of stress for women, and this problem has manifested as depression, fatigue, headaches, and even increased problems with cancer and heart disease.

#2 Unhealthy Relationships

Another one of the biggest causes of stress for most women is their relationships with others. Your family, friends, and co-workers can either be a positive source of refreshment or a debilitating source of strain and tension. Same goes for your spouse.  It’s a tragic reality that many women are coping the pain and despair of divorce.  If that is your situation, click here for divorce recovery support.

To make matters worse, you may be totally unaware of the fact that the toxic relationships in your life are actually one of the biggest causes of your stress

Be honest with yourself! Ask yourself :

How do I feel about my relationships right now?

Are you happy with the way your partner or husband treats you? Are you one of those couples who argue and fight about the same issues that never seem to get resolved?

Is there a specific person at work that you just can’t stand?

Are you harboring resentment and negative feelings about your parents, your siblings or some other family member?

If your answer is “yes” to any of those questions, then your relationships may be a source of tension for you.

#3 Job burnout

Many women who suffer extreme symptoms of strain and tension wind up that way because the overload of work at home and at the office is more than they can handle on a long term basis.

There is only 24 hours in a day and with increasing workloads at the office and increasing pressures at home, you simply may not be able to achieve all of your tasks. Despite the best time management skills, an ever expanding to-do list can be harrowing.

You may end up feeling completely exhausted, overwhelmed, and overworked, day after day.

#4 Women Health Problems

Stress and health problems form a destructive combination in a woman’s life.

Stress can lead to many health problems for women, such as infertility, headaches, endometriosis, heart disease, and others. But often times, specific women health problems also lead to debilitating degrees of strain and anxiety. Illnesses such as breast cancer, hormonal changes during menopause, complications during pregnancy, and the list goes on.

In addition to challenges caused by our own health problems, we often also have to cope with stress caused by the health problems of our loves ones.

Every mother knows the taxing demands of taking care of her child that is chronically ill. Every wife knows the pain of taking care of a husband who is terminally ill. Every woman who is also a daughter knows the pressure and weighty responsibility of caring for her aging or sick parent.

#5 Stages Of Grieving

Dealing with the death of a loved can trigger an inevitable flood of emotions for us as women. The death of your spouse, the death of your child, the death of your parent or of a close friend can strain your emotional, mental, and physical resources. It does not matter if the loss of your loved one was expected or sudden, it remains one of the biggest causes of stress for a woman and one of the most difficult challenges to overcome in life.

#6 Single Parent Families

Because of divorce, separation, or death of a spouse, more and more women are finding themselves in the challenging situation of being a single mother. More than 90 percent of single parent families in the United States are headed by mothers. A sobering statistic!

If you are a single mother, you may be coping with emotional stress, economic need and social disadvantages. Single motherhood may be one of the biggest causes of stress for you as a woman, since you may be struggling valiantly to pay the rent each month, to put food on the table and to make arrangement for childcare.

#7 Teenage Parenting

Raising kids in this technologically advanced 21st century is not for the weak at heart. Teenage parenting in particular can actually be one of the biggest causes of stress for women.

Modern society changes with lightening speed, some things for better and many things for the worse….much worse. Protecting your teenagers from the dangers of our modern world while at the same time giving them the space they need to grow into adulthood is a serious challenge for most women, so you are far from alone.

Here’s the good news!!

Raising teenagers is a challenge that can be won successfully. Teenagers are smart and if given the proper knowledge, they can make informed decisions just like any adult.

The trick to teenage parenting is to discern when your teenager is ready to learn certain lessons and to be able to communicate with your teenage child effectively!

 

Looking For Safe Car Seats for Toddlers? Look No Further!

When you have a child, you know that nothing is as important as keeping that child safe. The car is one of the most dangerous places for a young child, as their bones and muscles do not yet have the strength and resistance needed to withstand the same kinds of impact that adults might be able to withstand.

Finding safe car seats for toddlers is a high-priority for parents who want to stress less when traveling with their kids in the car.

Children, on the other hand, are rarely concerned with their own safety, and are more concerned about comfort, especially when they have to ride in the car a lot. Some car seats provide only comfort or only safety, compromising on the other aspect. Fortunately, the Peg Perego Convertible Premium Infant to Toddler Car Seat is not one of those seats. It is designed to begin life with your child, and carry them safely all the way through their toddler years, until they are big enough to sit in the car without a seat.

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Because this car seat is infant to toddler, not only will you ensure you always have a comfortable seat that your child loves, you can circumvent the need to constantly be buying a new car seat when they grow out of the old one. It is rated for children five to seventy pounds. Generally, after seventy pounds, children are considered old enough to leave the car seat behind. This is the only car seat you will ever need to buy!

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Not only can it follow your kid through all stages of childhood, it has specially designed impact protection and energy-absorbing foam inserts. If you were to ever be in an accident, this car seat is designed to protect the child from harm. On either side of the head, polystyrene wings shield the head, neck and spine from glass and metal, as well as provide cushioning, to eliminate the danger of whiplash during a t-bone style collision.

The adjustable, convertible straps hold the child securely, so that a rear-ending or head-on collision cannot snap them out of the seat.

All of these features are cleverly designed, as far as your child is concerned, as comfort features. The wings on either side of the head are a great place to rest against and take a nap. The straps will not chafe against sensitive baby skin, and because you can place the seat forwards or backwards in the car, you can customize your child’s ride, however they feel most comfortable.

Parents and children both love this car seat, and when it comes to your family, only the best protection would do. Most people never have to test out the seat’s safety features, but if you ever do, you want your child to be strapped into a Peg Pergo Convertible Premium Car Seat.